Incredibly down and upset.

Gary1957 2 months ago

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My wife's brain tumour is now terminal, how long I don't know and don't. want to know.

I feel over whelmed at looking after her and feeding her. We have carers in 4 times a day but I am so tired doing all the chores. Even thoits hard work I feel I have to do everything because I love her so much. We get visitors daily and one who is a church goer was trying to push me into discussing with my wife about funerals etc. I can't discuss this with anyone just because I get so upset thinking about it.

I know I am waiting for the end and it is too much to handle mentally, I am crying now.

eddiel 2 months ago

Hi Gary1957, I am so sorry to hear about your wife, it is so unfair what you are both going through, and my heart goes out to you and your wonderful wife, I too have been carer, and now cared for, and my friend, I couldn't tell you which was harder, if I had to choose I would say being the carrier.

Like you I tried to/wanted to do everything, which is understandable but not possible without a price to pay, either to your physical or emotional wellbeing or the quality of the care you do, please I'm not having a go at you, I did exactly the same thing, I thought I could care all day every day, and almost paid the ultimate price.

I know it doesn't sound right but you have to look after yourself as well, just a hour a day doing something you enjoy to unwind and relax, will give you the boost your body needs and help you better care for your beautiful wife, I wish I could help take the pain away

Eddie

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