Hi, my 90 year old dad has terminal lung cancer and I don't think it will be long before he goes. My mum, who's 81, is trying her best to cope but is understandably tired and stressed out. Dad's getting more forgetful and unsteady on his feet, and is sometimes rude and aggressive towards people.
I don't know what to do to help more - I'm stuck in the middle trying to support both parents, trying to keep the peace. I don't know whether mum's entitled to more help, or whether dad should be in hospital. Is anyone else in this position or does anyone have any advice?
Hi TND53
Sorry to hear about your mum and dad and the situation you find yourself in.
Has your dad had a needs assessment - for details about this see the NHS website It can be helpful to get an independent assessment of how they can manage and what support is available.
With my own dad we ended up moving him to a care home where he could get the care he needed 24/7 something we could not do at home and meant we could turn from exhausted carers to loving children knowing he was getting the best care.
As HummingBird Gal said you are welcome to ring the helpline here if there is something you need to ask and post on here whenever as someone is always listening.
<<hugs>>
Steve
