I find myself struggling to come to terms with the heartbreaking reality that my wife has been diagnosed with terminal cancer.
It's a disbelief that weighs heavily on my heart, a thought that feels surreal and utterly devastating. The unpredictability of life has thrown me into an emotional whirlwind, grappling with the knowledge that our time together is finite.
Each day is a reminder of the love we share, but also of the challenges ahead. Navigating this journey is both terrifying and overwhelming as I seek to support her through this fight with grace and courage.
The precious moments we have left become even more significant, yet the pain of what lies ahead casts a long shadow over our lives. In this time of uncertainty, I hold on tightly to hope, love, and the memories we continue to create. I wish for strength—to embrace each day with compassion and resilience, despite the heartache of knowing we are facing an uphill battle together.
I cannot tell you how sorry I am that you have to face this. My husband has been diagnosed with OC but is on a chemo and surgery treatment plan. I am still terrified of what he will face and whether the cancer will recur. I also supported a friend with OC recently who, like your wife was given a terminal diagnosis. She too was determined to take the treatment offered and aim for the best quality of life possible. We contacted our local hospice and she was given good support and respite when needed. You will find, as I have, so many people on this forum with invaluable knowledge, information and caring hearts who will help you. There are also those who have confounded their oncologists prognosis. I wish you strength and courage to support your wife …… she is so lucky to have you with her.
Hi top
I really struggled when my wife was first diagnosed, in Janice's case with Leiomyosarcoma though she had a number of issues before that including sepsis that could easily have killed her.
I managed to find a living with less stress course with Maggies that really helped me. Part of that was recognizing that nobody really knows what tomorrow will bring and that will all my worrying about what the future might hold I was blocking myself from appreciating what we have. We also learnt conscious breathing techniques that are helpful when life decides to throw us another curveball but also in helping me relax and get some sleep. Transcendental meditation though did not really work for me.
What many carers find is that they need to remember to make some time for themselves,
<<hugs>>
Steve
Thank you Shortgirl,
I really struggle to come to terms with this. Every day is a nightmare.
Pure torture and very painfull. I hope your husband responds well to the treatments and has no pain.
He is lucky to have you there with him.
to help in these awfull times.
Take care both of yous.
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