My dad got diagnosed with kidney cancer in August, it was then discovered that it was also in his lung and his lymph nodes in his chest and abdomen. Since his original diagnosis it has been found that the lung was the primary cancer and so that is now being treated. Since quite early on we have known that it is not curable, manageable but not curable. My dad has always said and still maintains that he wants to fight it. The frustrating bit is that he doesn't actually do anything to help himself. He started chemo on Monday, was told that he needed to drink more liquids, he just says it's impossible and refuses to do it. Is filling himself up on sugar and is barely looking after himself. He has been hospitalised since Thursday due to an infection and is still maintaining he wants to 'fight it'. yet still isn't drinking water, or taking meds when he needs to. I don't know if he is in denial or quite what but I am at my whits end. He thinks I am nagging all the time and I just don;t know what to do, how to help him or who can. I can't just wash my hands of him and I am happy to respect his wishes but it seems impossible. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Hi Clave welcome to the forum, That sounds very difficult for you and little wonder you are frustrated. Maybe its worth having a chat with the staff on the ward he is on at the hospital and explain your frustrations and then they can have a chat with him and maybe include you in on that. Sometime it works when someone else says the same thing as you do but its also taking the pressure of you to keep repeating this to him, Hope you get some answers. xx
gail
That sounds sensible why not give them a call and speak to them to ensure they can have that chat with him..x
gail
