My Mum

Hi

Your not alone - My mum has stage 4 cancer Carcinoid thats so rare there isnt anything other than a hormonal injection once a month. it started in her lung and then her liver now her brain

She was diagnosed in March this year and was given 12 weeks but shes a fighter

Its okay not to be okay - i find it comes over me in waves the sadness - one minute i am okay then the next a wave. All of a sudden a memory will just pop into my head.

Iv cried uncontrollably, iv got lost inside my own mind with my thoughts iv played scenarios through my head - i believe its all normal

I'm 36 you will be strong for your mum but its okay to be sad and feel this way. always here if you need to talk about anything 

You really are not alone xxxxx N

Hi Cath, felt compelled to write something here as I have been reading a lot of the stuff myself and I did post for the same reasons as yourself. It's an absolutely devastating thing to have to go through for yourself and your mother. Whatever is coming is not going to be easy to deal with but for me, my mother is also stage 4 colon but currently having treatment to reduce size, then they will look at the lymph nodes. It's been a real emotional roller coaster for me, I've got kids and they are also struggling with the news. 

I have good and bad days, I am journalling most days to help me write down how I feel so I can refer back to it if needs be. Know you're not alone and there are probably hundreds of thousands of families going through the same as us now accross the UK so maybe ask your GP for talking therapy or contact your local support groups? 

All the best x