My step dad has recently been diagnosed with bowel cancer he's just going through the process of meeting with specialists etc, it is quite advanced and he is decided he wants no treatment.
How do I support him and my mum without seeming to be trying to take control? They're both in their late 80's and fiercely independent. My most recent attempt at ',help' resulted in the first every angry words off him in 40 years. ( I'm not surprised or even bothered about that, as I can only imagine how hard this is for him and them both) but I do want to help and don't know where to start.
Hi JZo
Welcome to our community though sorry to hear about your step dad. Perhaps the biggest help any of us can be is by listening, people often say they do not know what to say and that is fine.
Perhaps changing the focus some - how are you? I find some of the advice in the pages on Emotional support for family and friends quite helpful.
<<hugs>>
Steve
