Anticipatory grief advice

Hi Clairehb 

Sorry to read this, my dad suffered a long illness and we lost him bit by bit but I don't think anything really prepares us for our loved ones not to be there anymore. 

There is quite a good blog on here about anticipatory grief 

A book that has some good reviews is good grief by Catherine Mayer and Anne Mayer Bird.

At a friends funeral recently the celebrant said that grief is the price we pay for love and that really struck a chord with me.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Hi Clairehb, 

My husband passed on the 4th August, from kidney cancer. His funeral is this Friday. The sorrow and pain are unbearable. We found that spending as much time as possible helped. We talked in a smoothing manner, telling him to ‘Let go”, that we would “Be fine” and that “He was loved.” As the body gently shuts down, apparently hearing is the last sense to go. Also, physical contact was so important to us. Afterwards, my son had to come and remove me from the hospice, as I didn’t want to leave him. The mindset that helped was that, he wouldn’t be suffering anymore. Kind regards.

Hi Kate,

I'm so sorry for your loss, will think of you on Friday

Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Warmest wishes.

Thank you  x

So sorry for your loss x Sending hugs to you. It's the worst pain ever xx My dad isn't living a good life anymore and he's not happy but I'm scared to lose him xx

Hi there, I am back home now after the funeral. I just wanted to share that it was beautiful. I held hands with our children {adult}, and focused on the service. I was up at 4am, unable to sleep with anxiety. Planning ahead has proved to be so important.

I just wanted to say thank you, to everyone that has posted support comments over the last five months. It has made a real difference. I am exhausted, but jubilant that I have got through it.