24 hours later

Oh Andy, I'm so sorry ... but glad it was peaceful, pain free and that loved ones were with your wife.  I hope having family close will give you the strength you will need for the coming weeks. Thoughts and prayers are with you.  Much love. xx  

Hi Andy, I am so sad to hear your news. She sounded an amazing woman. I am so pleased that she was not in pain and at peace. I am afraid my husband has deteriorated rapidly in the last few days, and I fear we only have days left. Sleep is elusive at the moment. Sending hugs to you and your family.

Hi Kate,

Im so sorry to hear about your husband, I’m sending you both love and peace.

I hope that he isn’t suffering or in pain, cancer is so cruel, it just takes people indiscriminately,

All you can do is grant his last wishes and make it as peaceful and as pain free as possible which were my wife’s wishes before she passed.

Sending you hugs

much love,

Andy

Thanks Andy, we had a St Barnabas Specialist Nurse here yesterday morning. We have managed to get a hospital bed set up at home. We should hear from the Pallative Nursing Team tomorrow. I am feeling overwhelmed with the amount of friend’s and family that would like to visit. He is in an out of consciousness a lot of the time. So much to organise.  

Hi Kate,

I would limit the daily visitors, maybe 3 a day as I had to do with my wife, he will tire so easily, we restricted the time to 20-30 minutes too, people will understand as long as you make it clear.

Plus don’t forget to try to get some rest yourself xx

Im here to chat to if you would like to x

Andy

I am feeling quite tearful, as I am knackered.

I know you are Kate, as was I, but you will get through it, I promise x

Please try to keep strong x

sending condulences to you and your family

Hi Andy, my husband is struggling a lot with nausea and vomiting. He had an awful night, with hallucinations and general agitation. I managed to get a Specialist Nurse from St Barnabas in on Saturday. He is having anti-sickness injections and morphine. He hasn’t taken any nutrition in for four days now. We have acceptance and pain management. However, we don’t have the peace. I shall keep going until he reaches that point. 

Thank you. Fortunately, our adult children live at home and we are working a tag team system. Our border collie is not happy, as he is missing his Daddy.