I'm just finding it so hard. Husband has been diagnosed with prostate, colon, liver and lung cancer. Just finished chemotherapy, cancer has not advanced, but not reduced and will never go into remission. He doesn't want to tell anyone. He has let me tell our adult children and my sister, but no-one else. He is so angry that he has cancer, very smiley with the nurses and reception staff and so irritable with me. I can't do anything right. He is in pain and has medication, but only takes it when really in pain. Will not engage with the pain management team at the hospice. I'm just so tired and finding it very difficult. Any advice would be welcome.
Welcome to our community.
Your story is unfortunately not that uncommon, often people are worried that others will treat them differently/badly as a result of having cancer and so don't want anyone to know. Of course that then can leave us without the support we need.
If we look at your feelings when someone has cancer I know I ticked a great number of those issues and in my case I "coped" until I didn't and then I reached out for help for me.
I did a living with less stress course that really helped me. I was perhaps not appreciating what we have as worrying about a future I could not control. Life still likes to throw us curveballs and the conscious breathing exercises really helped with that but also in getting to sleep sometimes.
<<hugs>>
Steve
