Two weeks to live

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I haven't posted on here for a while, but I regularly read all of the posts.

Just to recap, Dad had bowel cancer, which spread to his liver. Chemotherapy was stopped in March, as his tumour continued to grow. He has steadily deteriorated,  but the last week or so, he's become noticeably worse. We had to attend A and E at the weekend,  as he was in so much pain and had lost the use of his legs. The A and E doctor prescribed him antibiotics for a possible urine infection.  Anyway, his gp visited today. Lovely,  kind man. He's upped Dad's morphine and prescribed him some other meds to make him more comfortable,  but told me ( not Dad) that he only has a couple of weeks.  I feel so weird. I've known what's been coming for well over a year now, but now it's imminent,  I can't quite believe it. I had a few tears this evening,  but am feeling strange now. I don't think I know how to feel. I work full-time so need to carry on with a routine while I can. Oh, and there's no space at the hospice for him, so he's at home with my brother who lives with him.

Sorry for the brain dump....

  • Hi  

    I am sure many will recognize your not knowing how to feel but glad to hear your dad is being kept comfortable. I know how important it can be in remembering to look after ourselves too, can help just to take things one day at a time.

    <<hugs>>

    Steve

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  • Hello. Like you and your dad, I knew that my husband had been given a prognosis of 6-10 months and in fact he had more or less a year. He died on the 17th June. So, yes I had time to get used to the idea, but preparing for the reality of the end.... I don’t know that you really can. It was still a shock. In fact I still almost feel like he’s just ‘in hospital’.

    I don’t know if I can be any help, but if you’d like to talk please get in touch.

    xx

  • It's good that the GP visited. It will make things easier when the end comes. No post mortem. No coroner. 

    Sorry for your situation. It's so tough. You need to be so, so strong for your Dad, and for yourself. 

    I know this story well.