Struggling to cope . Can't switch off.

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Hi  My dad is on palliative care for prostate cancer with metastases .  I live local to him and feel as if I am constantly on call.  We have managed to get 2 PA's to help support but they have only limited availability for calls, so some days there are none.  My mind is constantly thinking of dad, he lives at home alone, and wishes to stay there without hospital admittance, for end of life care.  He's sleeping more every day and missing medication due to this.  I am constantly breaking down, which is also causing issues with my relationship with my partner.  My sister has been over, she lives 2 hours away, and has regularly stayed over when she can.  How do people cope? Lost mum to dementia 4 years ago, followed by my brother 8 weeks later. 

  • Hi Elliej, and welcome, I saw jane2511  reply to you and would like to ask, have you talked to your GP about getting a referral to your local hospice and their palliative care team and a district nurse, I to have metastatic prostate cancer and have had them for nearly a year and they have made a big difference to my quality of life and helped my partner with advice on how to care for me and are also supporting her emotionally. Best wishes to you and your family take care

    Eddie xx