Hi all,
My dad has been diagnosed with bladder cancer in November and lung cancer (hasn't been confirmed if it is metastatic or not). He leaves in Greece. He was in a lot of pain and cancer was quite advanced in the bladder. He did chemos and he responded very well. From January he is under immune therapy. The response wasn't as expected either the immune therapy and they asked to repeat the biopsy.
Today out of the blue he told us to cancel everything and he denies to continue any treatment. It isn't a massive suprise, he never liked doctors and that's why he end up in this situation. He was in pain and denied to get checked in the first instance until the pain was unbearable. I know it is his choice and I am up to support this but I think he is not deciding with clear minds.
We suspect depression and some other family issues make the situation worse. He is stubborn like a donkey and very old minded although he is just 70. I am on loss of what to do.
One part of me tells me that we can't just let him and we have to force him. The other part is so tired that thinks that if he decides to die to let him die. That he is disrespectful that he doesn't think of us and that he wants to put us through all of this pain. And at the same time I feel guilty with all the thoughts.
I know that it isn't easy for him, although he has been extremely lucky with the response to treatments so far without major side effects.
I am in loss of what should I do. The Greek system is good with physical treatments but doesn't provide and psychological support.
I am worried for my mum too.
Not sure how to deal with all of it.
I know at the end of the day is his decision but what if it is a decision without clear state of mind?
