Hey.. not really sure what I’m expecting here but came across this page and thought maybe other people in a similar situation maybe able to help.
the old saying ‘you can take a horse to water but you can’t force it to drink’ or something along them lines.. please tell me I’m not alone in wanting my mum to give themselves a fighting chance at beating this!
She have a fairly positive outlook in terms of treatment should be curative but as the brilliant NHS/ cancer team are doing their bit with chemoradiotherapy mum isn’t doing her bit of keeping up with eating and drink enough. I don’t know whether it’s a case of can’t be bothered or just purely thinks it doesn’t matter because the treatment will cure it but we are into week 2 of 7 and it’s only going to get worse.
I just don’t know how to get through to her and I can’t cope watching my mum not listen/ not do the best she can to give herself the best chance possible.
please send any advice my way!
love and hugs to you all.
Puff the magic dragon x
Sorry to hear about your mum and fingers crossed for the treatment.
What she is going through and your reaction are really very common, battles around food and drink divide patient and carer on a fairly regular basis and sometimes of course our loved ones end up being admitted so the doctors and nurses take on the battle.
If your mum needs it she will end up being admitted so the treatment can go ahead, perhaps the only advice as a carer is remind them it is their choice to be with us at home or in hospital. It can help to put them in control, once they agree then you are just helping them achieve their target - you then become the one listening because as you say we cannot make them drink.
<<hugs>>
Steve
