Hi everyone
My dad was diagnosed with Small cell lung cancer earlier this year after an x-ray for something unrelated!! He has chemo/radio treatment (ended mid July) and 10 sessions of preventative radio treatment in early August to the brain.
He has his first follow up call/appointment this month but keeps saying he knows he is dying :-( :-( It then struck me that he hasn't had a follow up scan so how can he have a telephone review meeting without this....then I worried he is hiding something.....
We remind him that he must be positive and how could be possibly 'know' this when he hasn't had a follow up scan/test. But this morning I dropped to see him for a coffee and he said he knows it has only slowed it down - then refused to talk about it.
I am worried that he has had reviews during treatment and has not updated us. He went to a few appointments without my mum as he insisted.....now I am sat here freaking out!
Have your loved ones had regular updates/reviews during treatment????
Thanks, Nance
Hi NanceHope
Sorry to hear about your dad and the impact this is having on you all.
Perhaps the best reference for you at the moment might be our library on talking about cancer
I know when my parents were ill my dad did not tell us everything because he wanted to protect us and let us get on with our life - took quite a lot of work to get him to understand that the best way to protect us was to share because otherwise we fear the worst and that is so not helpful.
Sometimes though the idea of being positive is rather easier to say than to do
Hope some of that helps,
<<hugs>>
Steve
