I started replying to another post, didn't realise I needed to rant as much as I did! My mum has Stage 4 Breast Cancer, is stubborn, selfish and at times makes me want to scream. I'm an only child, neither mum or dad will discuss the future, everything is 'fine'. They recently got away for a few days and while away, my husband, kids and I cleared their living room, kitchen and two halls, to get painter in, new carpet down, then moved everything back in, cleaned, fresh and shiny. We never got a 'thank you' just my Dad complaining about the smell of paint. Mum is stable, has lost weight and everyone tells her she looks fantastic. So that just convinces her that everything is marvellous. She is finally slim! Yay! (sarcastic, obviously), but when the scan is no longer stable, it'll be me sat there with her in hospital, not my Dad as he never goes to any appointments. My Dad isn't the one ringing the doctor, or helping when mum doesn't make the toilet in time and has an accident in the car. I'll be the one having to then tell him the scan is no longer stable. Then I will watch them again stick their heads in sand and listen to how 'fine' everything will be. People tell me how fantastic my mum is, great spirit, determination, inspiration, and yes she is and I love her, she's my best friend but what people don't see is how selfish, bad tempered, demanding and impatient she can be in the day to day.
