My husband found out at the beginning of this year that he has terminal brain cancer. We also found out that our landlord is selling the house we've been happily renting. Next month we are moving and due to the state of the economy, affordability and current availability of nearby rental houses that allow a pet, we are downsizing. I am worried about everything. The search for a house and packing and preparation to move has taken over at a time when we should be doing bucket list stuff and making the most of things. I haven't been keeping family updated and last week my sister in law thought I was upset with her but I didn't reach out because I was simply exhausted. My husband is the one battling cancer but I really feel like things are taking their toll on me. My young adult kids offer moral support and it helps sometimes but other times I just feel down. I have reached out to Macmillan and Samaritans for emotional support and that did help, but at the minute I don't really know how to put into words what is eating me. .I'm trying to hold it all together.
Hi Shebelieves
Having to move house in these circumstances - you have hit what are considered two of life's most stressful events at the same time and neither of them are actually in your control - most people would crumble under that pressure but somehow you manage to carry on.
If we look at your feelings when someone has cancer I know it is easy for me to recognize a lot of issues I have but somehow recognizing these feelings as normal can help to establish some level of control.
Glad you found reaching out helpful, talking can be a great kind of support and I certainly found it surprising how talking with complete strangers felt much more helpful than talking to friends and family.
<<hugs>>
Steve
