Hi! I’ve just joined this group in the hope that there will be some people who have similar experiences and might help me with some advice . My partner of 7 years has just finished a fairly gruelling course of radiotherapy with chemotherapy to try and get rid of throat cancer which was found because it had already spread to his lymph nodes. Since the second we got the diagnosis in June our lives have been completely transformed. He is due his 12 week post treatment scan tomorrow, results in 2 weeks. I’ve supported and cared for him every step of the way and he is slowly but surely recovering. We are just so far apart now, during the treatment we were never closer,but now he is completely obsessed with saying yes to everything. He’s out working ,socialising, shooting, golfing and pretty much constantly doing things. As a result he is completely exhausted and sleeps constantly, has no time for me unless I want to stand and drink with him or sit every evening listening to him snoring. I’m so very sorry that he’s been through it, he has practically no sense of taste back yet and I do love him very much, but he has become completely selfish. If I complain at all he says I’m jealous and I wish he was back to being ill which,I assure you, couldn’t be further from that truth as it was devastating to go through. I can see he is grabbing life with both hands but he’s certainly not helping his recovery and our relationship is struggling. We have 7 kids between us ranging from 13-24 and he’s only interested in his next big night/ day out. I’m sorry I sound like a right moaning Minnie, I work and I try to give him space but it’s all so very hard.
Hi Wwoo1229
Sorry to hear about what your are going through it does sound very difficult. For any carer the emotions we go through can be really hard and it is so important to make some space for ourselves - so actually no you do not sound like a moaning Minnie to me just someone coping with a really difficult time in the best way you know how.
<<hugs>>
Steve
