Three months ago my wife was diagnosed with Stage 3c lung cancer. We don't know how this will go, but the Consultant said 'put your affairs in order' at the first meeting, so we are not putting heads in the sand. We've had such a lovely 23 years that this seems monstrously unfair. But cancer doesn't care about fair. Doesn't care about anything really.
One of the first things that people told me, as the carer, was 'look after yourself'. I've been trying to remember that, on the basis that a washed out or blown up husband will not be much use to my love. And most mornings, from the first day, I have written things down, and find it useful. It reminds me of my feeling and also sort of puts them in perspective by putting them there on the computer screen in front of me. Some people call it 'journal' or 'journalling' but it's the same idea.
Has anyone else found it helpful to write things down?
