My husband has been going through a tough time recently. After going through the last couple of years with chemo and radiotherapy we found out recently that his cancer had spread resulting in another 4 months of chemo. He’s had complications, his kidney function has been reduced, he’s had a stent out in and now a catheter. He’s home until we get word by letter next week what the next step is. My concern is that he’s given up, he’s not eaten since yesterday, wants to lie in bed 24/7, won’t bathe, shave. This doesn’t feel like a life at the moment it feels more like and endurance. How do I help support him emotionally, physically without sounding like a broken record? Feel like I’m at my wits end. Any advice will be gratefully received.
Hi Sharri
Sorry to hear about your husband and the effect his behaviour is having on you. I think the most important lesson I had to learn in our journey with cancer is that I had to learn how to look after myself. Looking at Looking after someone with cancer we can see how important our own emotions can be in this circumstance.
If may also help to look at Talking about cancer and sometimes recognize some honest discussions need to happen to help keep us all sane,
Thank you very much for sharing on here though - life is tough but together we make a really great team.
<<hugs>>
Steve
