Supporting/caring for spouse after separation

Hi there,

it’s a difficult situation but call Macmillan and ask an expert on this one. The hospital usually don’t discharge someone home home unless they are fit or have a care package in place. Even for just a couple of weeks.

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all the best xx

Hi @sh1328,

Sorry to hear about your ex, you might be surprised at how common your situation is given that both cancer and marriage break-ups are unfortunately common.

As for this being the right group - absolutely - as Louli has pointed out unless he has a care package in place the hospital is not supposed to discharge - then people in that group get labelled "bed blockers" in the press - helpful NOT.

How old is your daughter? I hope you may have found Talking to children and teenagers which discusses the best way of including children on the path life has decided for you. Our son is 18 now but when we were talking recently he reckoned he had spent about 1 year in hospital - 6 days when he was born (special care baby unit) and 3 days for operations - the rest mostly with my wife but also a few bonus days visiting me.

Do post whenever, we all understand and together we are stronger.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thank you

I had an online chat with one of the Macmillan nurses this afternoon and she agreed with what you said, that they wouldn't discharge him without adequate care in place. She said to make sure the hospital are aware and to make sure GP is properly involved.

Fingers crossed they can get something in place to put his mind at rest 

Hi Steve, 

My daughter is 7 and we told her last night. We had the booklet from Macmillan and she handled it pretty well. It helps that her great uncle had kidney cancer about 10 years ago so we're able to tell her that he has had the same operation, so it seems a bit less scary.

She's been a bit emotional today about unrelated stuff but I'm glad in a way as it's let her have a wee cry and get lots of hugs without having to focus on the cancer until she come to terms with a little. She knows she can ask either of us anything and that right now Daddy feels fine so although she's worried, I think it will be post op it will hit her