Posted on lung cancer forum but probably better here. Hi, I am 72 and he is 74, I only have him, he is very breathless with COPD and currently we are offered no options for treatment except morphine by mouth with support from GP. Maybe looking at 6 months to a year and I have no idea how I will cope, house not suitable to have anyone in and full of junk, lots not working that he would have fixed, not short of cash but wondering if anyone knows of anything that would help us to get him fitter so that some form of treatment might be reconsidered? I also need to make the house work for him and able to have visitors to stay as he has a sister who he loves dearly but none of his family know and she is in fragile health, lives down South and we are in South Yorkshire. (Sheffield). I look round and at our 3 elderly cats and feel it all coming to an end. Have been given a contact for local cancer care charity who can offer advice and some kind of help. Including legal help He has no will and wants to make one, and we wish to marry but I was divorced many years ago and have no details of the decree absolute. We have been together for 40 years. May run out of time as I need proof of divorce to book getting married and that takes time and then there is a month wait after booking. He is able to travel by taxi in a portable wheelchair now but we have no access to our own transport and I don't drive. No idea how well he will be in a few weeks or months. Despairing, wanting to stay positive for him but don't know how. Ashamed of all the junk in the house but will have to let people in to sort things as although I am physically fairly OK except for a back problem, was treated for breast cancer in 2022 which seems to have worked, had lumpectomy and radiotherapy but no chemo, on letrozole, and although we both look far younger than our years it is all too much for me. Panicking. Any advice very welcome. If we can get him physically fitter then maybe he could have at least some treatment. I hate to see him like this and he is the only person in my life and I feel I am living for him and our cats, as I spent most of my life at work and have no real friends. Feeling helpless and trapped.
