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Hi Vic49and welcome to our community, though sorry it came so quickly to you both.

If we look at the emotional effects of caring we can see all sorts of feelings people qo through - and they are not selfish at all. 

My wife has Leiomyosarcoma and had two different types of chemotherapy, the second one of which appears to have rendered the cancer stable so we are now living with cancer. A cure for now is not possible but we will take our new golden "no evidence of progression".

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thanks for your response. I will take a look at the link. We are all going through a lot 

Hi Vic49, I’m really sorry to hear of your partner’s diagnosis and know how hard it is. My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer which has spread to his spine & liver. It was a massive shock as had no other symptoms except a bad back. 2 years before that I was diagnosed with breast cancer which was successfully treated and I’m fine now. 
It’s a lot to get your head round and is impacting on you both in different ways. Your partner dealing with an illness and all the treatment to come and you the huge change to your lives and the fear of what the future holds. 
Speaking as the carer it’s not selfish how you’re feeling at all. Your lives were going in one direction with all the plans you’d made and suddenly you’ve had to do an emergency stop while you deal with this huge life change. I’ve had it described as a grief, for all the things you’d planned to do that you might not be able to. Also however things go in the next few months/years life will never be the same again after a cancer diagnosis and that needs time to process too. If you have a Maggies or a cancer support centre near you they all support the family as well so don’t hesitate to seeks some help. Sending you my best wishes xx 

Thank you Lucy for your understanding. I’m glad you’re okay and I hope your husband will be too. It’s a help knowing how others feel and cope with everything we all have to handle as it is a lot to deal with.

Best wishes,

Vic x