11 months after his diagnosis, outlining his prognosis of 6 months with treatment, my darling husband passed away on 17th May. He's gone though his treatment with minimal side effects and zero pain, but his last 24 hours left me feeling so utterly helpless. I was off on long term sick from work to care for him from that first appointment.
For all those caring for their loved ones, I just wanted to leave a little advice in here.
Try and make the most of every day as best you can. Take photos, keep a diary, bevause when you're on the other side of this vile disease, they bring comfort and happy thoughts.
Being a carer sn't easy. It drains your soul, its exhausting physically, mentally and emotionally. Watching the person you love change before your eyes and have no power to influence or stop the changes broke my heart.
Take time for you when you can. I had to have eyes on my husband 24/7 as he had seizures due to the brain mets so even a nice soak bath was a luxury I relished.
Talking with your loved one about their final wishes is the hardest,and most painful conversation I've ever had. But, its vital. Now I find myself in the midst of funeral arrangements, knowing what those wishes were, peversly gives me comfort. We even went to view a few cemeteries, so he could pick the one he liked best. He chose the music from his play list. Left me a list of who he would like there and so on.
Wishing you all strength, resilience and so much love. You can do this. If I can, anyone can. Now my caring is over. I feel like I've lost my job, the days are long, the house feels empty and my big girl pants are on.
C x
Hello
So very sorry to hear of your loss, I wish I had words to comfort you, your advice is exactly right, the time during the final weeks, is the most precious ever.
The loneliness and silence after a partner has passed is often unbearable, it will be. a year in July for me, I am managing life a little better, but every day is a struggle to get through, without my Linda. Please PM me if you want to chat, anytime. I hope you have family who can give you some emotional support, A call to your GP may help.
take good care of you
Linda You are my best memory, You are all of my best memories
Hi Crystal Mayze
so sorry for your loss.
Sending you healing love and light and hugs
Wee Me xx
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