Just beginning this terrifying journey

Sorry to hear this, my husband has OC with liver mets too with only treatment not surgery. Not everyone has the same experience of chemotherapy my husband is on his first cycle and is coping really well. I take one day at a time, I understand your feelings, there is a massive shift in your relationship which if I'm honest I find really difficult but it is the same if not worse for our partners. Enjoy the small things you can still do together  

Hi Sue70

Thank you so much for sharing this and being so honest with how your feeling. I completely understand and reading your story makes me feel less alone.

I feel the same way about my dad as we wait for him to start chemo but not sure if he will cope with it all as he is already beaten down with everything else. However, we are not giving up. When I feel like I'm struggling, I let the tears fall and feel what I am feeling. Then I keep going cause that's all I can do. Will be thinking of you and your husband. 

Xx

Hi 

Thank you for your replies. I don't know whether you have seen my recent post in carers forum. G has now had a week in hospital as his fluids were very low and he wasn't eating or drinking. He had a stent fitted and is now back at home. He is eating much better,creamy mash and gravy going down particularly well! Small improvements mean so much. Thinking of you all.

Sue

Hi Sue

such good news,

Both these pists could have been written by me. You are so not alone and the man you know changes with the illness, however dig deep they are still in there. 

This group is so good. 

Sending virtual hugs

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I can completely understand your feelings because I feel I have been grieving for my husband and he is still here , I have come to understand that I am grieving for the life we had as we have not really left the house since the beginning of covid , as my husband was diagnosed with bladder cancer and since last September we have gone through chemotherapy and 2 operations as well as a stroke.

I am looking after my husband and doing everything that needs done in the house and shopping and driving etc it’s very tiring and I am still coming to grips with all the changes.

please don’t get me wrong I am extremely grateful that my husband is still here with me as I love him so very much, but I am exhausted and feeling very anxious for the future 

Hello
its no wonder you’re exhausted, have you enquired about support ? It’s normal to feel anxious about the future, but anxiety won’t help you or your husband. Concentrate on your love for each other. Enjoy every moment together, I simply sat and held my Lindas hand, it gave us both great comfort. Sending you love and strength 

Thank you for your kind answer and you’re right anxiety is not good for anyone. I am learning to be more calm and try to appreciate the little things every day and not to worry about the future, jus to take one day at a time ️

Well done, it’s the only way, make the most of every minute of every day 

thinking of you