Partners behaviour ..hard to cope with

Good Morning Melliec, Firstly I can sympathise with you about what you are experiencing. They call it Chemo Brain. What your partner is doing we are all at some point feeling or have felt the effects of Cancer,and its treatment. Sadly about 95% of us stick it out ,and we find there is no help for us. Maybe get your partner to join this site and read what others are going through and they might just find one little sentence that makes a bell in their head ring and think that it's the same as what they are doing. 

When my Tina had her treatment, as soon as the Dexmethasone was given before the Chemotherapy she became the hulk. She was evil,but I still put up with it. 

The drinking what your partner is doing, is just a reaction from being told they have cancer. We all react in different ways. Sadly the saying comes up,  We always hurt the ones closest to us' but if you don't feel that you can put up with his tantrums etc then walk away, but if you stay, we are all here to listen, and to try and help YOU.  

Keep Strong Bab and Good Luck with the journey. 

John

HI Melliec,

Geez this does sound rough. And like Billy says below- it sadly is a side effect of either the Chemo or in my husband's case, the steroids (dextamethasone as well) they are as evil as they are miraculous. My husband needed them as he is desperately thin, had stopped eating and become super low. But with them he began lashing out- fell out with myself and our daughter- hell we even left for 2 nights! So I/we get it!! Do you have a palliative nurse you can talk to? He may need them reduced. It's so hard. I was working full time until 2 months ago when he couldn't manage it things looked very bad. But now with his latest scan he's deemed "stable". Coulda fooled me. The cancer may be but he's sure not right. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. It sure sucks. Hardest thing I've ever done as well and now that he's stable I am looking at going back to work as well. SO hard. 

Take care and try to find some time or at least small moments for yourself

T.