Hi, my husband was diagnosed in November and we thought he also had bowel cancer. We received the wonderful news on Tuesday that the bowel was clear and we could move forward with the lung. We were lead to believe that an operation was possible and went for the first meeting today to be told operation wasn’t possible and we couldn’t believe it. Husband now feels like the world has imploded around him and we now have a further wait to find out what treatment is to be given. I am really struggling with what to say or do. I know he needs to stay positive but he is really struggling and I don’t know how to help.
Hi Loz66
You are far from alone in this position, the gap between diagnosis and treatment many find about the most difficult of all; this is not really helped by the messaging that the sooner we start treatment the better though it is worth recognizing the key reason for this is to get people to see their GP and your husband is well past that point.
We have some great tips in What to say to someone who has cancer though it can also be helpful to look at Your feelings when someone has cancer because it can be very hard to deal with out emotions - in my case my greatest help was perhaps a living with less stress course I did.
<<hugs>>
Steve
