Hello, 2 days ago my husband was told his cancer has returned from last year, but is now incurable. He will be starting maximum strength immunotheropy in Jan to hopefully give us a few years. we have two teenagers, and it all seems so desperately unfair, though I'm sure that must be how everyone feels and I should be grateful to have the chance of some potential time, though its not the lifetime we had planned :( I am really struggling with how to just carry on as if nothing has changed, though I know we need to make the most of what time we have. I'm just a blubbering wreck and keep questioning whether I should be researching melanomas more, looking for alternative therapies/private medical advice/breakthrough treatments in the hopes I stumble across a miracle cure. I just desperately lost, and my future is vanishing into a haze, will I ever summon the strength to accept this?
Hi and welcome to our community.
Your story really touched me in the feelings of feeling lost. Many on here talk of that feeling of being alone but I really hope you find our community useful in supporting you to find that strength.
Do feel free to drop in on our Melanoma forum where there will be a mix of people both in your position and the patients. People there will very likely be at all stages of treatment and probably as up to date as is possible to get.
I ended up doing a living with less stress course that really helped me. One thing was that I realised I was more worried about the future than what was happening at the moment and I could imagine things much worse than actually happened. Then of course life loved throwing in things I never expected too.
<<hugs>>
Steve
