I am so grateful to find this group. My husband was told yesterday he has a small tumour in his lung and secondary cancer in the bottom of his spine. I have completely lost it as I have anxiety disorder already. I cannot sleep, I feel sick. I am so worried about how I am going to cope. My mind is racing. At the same time I am trying to support my husband and not let him know how stressed I am. Any help will be much appreciated. I am so lost.
HI Scj24
welcome to the online community. So sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis and that you are struggling.
I can empathise with you. My own husband was diagnosed with a grade 4 brain tumour in early Sept 2020. Nothing prepares you for any tumour diagnosis. It's a tsunami of emotions for all concerned as you take the information on board.
Like you I wondered how I was going to hope in those early days but you know what, you're stronger than you think and you will get through this. Trust me...you are. Take things one step at a time. Take it one day at a time and on those rough days, one hour at a time. I'm guessing that you're both about to be thrown into a whirlwind of appointments so I'd suggest writing down all the questions you have ahead of these so that you can read them off when you are in the room or on the call with the medical team. It can feel totally overwhelming so writing the important questions down beforehand will help to keep you on track. And remember there's no such thing as a daft question. If it's something you are fretting about then its a valid question.
Personally I've found this community group a huge source of support. Everyone around here "gets it" and there's always someone around to listen and offer that virtual hug when you need one.
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Something else that's vitally important to help you get through this journey is taking time for you - taking "me time". You'll need time out to recharge your batteries, so go for a coffee with friends, go for a walk, read a book - do whatever helps you cope. Personally I find a long walk helps but even 10 minutes outdoors can help too. Journaling is another great way to cope. Once you've written the thing down it feels less scary so maybe give that a try too.
I hope some of this has helped in at least a small way. Stay positive. Stay strong.
Sending you love and hugs
Wee Me xx
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