My wife and I met later in life in 2015, we realised early on we had something special. We married in July 2020 and we both agree we are enjoying the happiest years of our lives ever. We are perfectly compatible in every way and just love being in each other’s company. I took voluntary redundancy last October to enjoy our happy lives together and take cruises to far flung places. Obviously COVID put pay to that for a while but in April this year she was diagnosed with gall bladder cancer, despite it being removed in 2017 !
Now chemo has had no affect so she’s just had some radiotherapy. My wife has been in hospital for 3 weeks now having developed pleurisy, had both lungs drained to improve breathlessness. Today we met with consultant who basically gave us the news we never want to receive, it has spread to her lungs. we’re told more chemo may be possible but only if her general health Improves considerably so she’ll cope with the drugs after effects. It was quite clear to us both that hopes are very low that any treatment would be successful, assuming the treatment can go ahead.
I’m sat here at home feeling numb, angry, devastated at the cruelty of life. WHY….. we are so in love both having had challenging 1st marriages and now after just a handful of years I will lose the only lady I have ever truly loved and who changed my life so much for the better. She is such a kind loving person she certainly doesn’t deserve this and I would do anything to take this away for her. The diagnosis is bad enough but knowing there is nothing I can do to make things better, is just unbearable. I just cannot bear to even think about the future.
Regards,
paul
Hi Paul
so sorry to hear your news. Nothing prepares you for hearing that.
Sitting with the neurosurgeon just over a year ago and hearing my husband's terminal diagnosis is a moment in time that will live with me forever.
Be reassured that all these emotions you're feeling are normal. As Bim07 says, this forum is a great source of support so please reach out any time. There's always someone here who "gets it" and can empathise with you.
I wish I could say something that will make this easier on you both but all I would say is take it one day at a time. Take it an hour at a time on the rough days. Be led by what your wife wants. Be assured that you are actually coping with all of this so much better than you think you are.
Remember too that Macmillan Support Services also offer lots of information, support, financial guidance or just someone to listen. It’s free to call 0808 808 0000. Most services are available 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week.
Sending you both a huge virtual hug. Stay strong.
Wee Me xx
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