Feeling lonely

I’m so sorry to hear about your husband.  It’s such a rollercoaster, and whilst dealing with that you have to try to keep life outside of that going as normal. It actually sounds like you’re doing a good job of it all and are coping remarkably well in getting things done. I’m not surprised to hear how you’re feeling, but you are absolutely not alone, as you will find from this forum. It really helped me to feel less alone. Everyone can empathise and understand in their own way, and it may help just to post here and interact with those in similar situations.  My husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer last year and we found out it was terminal in April when he spent a month in hospital. He is undergoing treatment now to try to extend his life as far as possible. For me, I can only describe it as a rollercoaster and every day is different and challenging in its own way. Sending a hug 

Thankyou for replying...  been sort of sitting on my feelings for weeks, and been having a particularly low few days. I have no one to really open up to who can truly understand. Stumbled across this forum today, and very glad I did...having read quite a few peoples posts here today, I can relate to quite a lot of emotions that I have gone through over the last 3 months.... thankyou for reading and replying.....hope things go well for you and your husband....hugs x

So sorry.  Yes it sounds weird but people told me to take care of myself because paradoxically my husband will have plenty of support but I will have very little.  I didn’t know what they meant because all of my attention and focus has been on my husband and keeping the kids and the house together.  But I really get it now.  So I know a little of how you’re feeling. Please do try to get some support if you can… you will need it greatly.  This is a great forum even just to read what others are going through and to not feel so alone.  Family/friends will never quite get it and really after a little sympathy it’s hard to know what else they could do that would be helpful.  Take care.

Thankyou.....it has taken some time for me to realise I need to off load thoughts and feelings.Been trying to hold it together for so long now and have forgotten about myself. Quite literally hit rock bottom last few days and really can't as my husband and son are dependant on me..   feel slightly better for having offloaded today, and there are people who understand, really wish I had spoken out sooner. 

Glad you’re feeling a little better.  I agree it’s sometimes helpful just to talk to others that get it. I know what you mean feeling you “can’t “ falter because your husband and son are depending on you!  So many times I drained the tank dry but had to keep going. I’m seeing a therapist now and that has been a big help to put things in perspective, and to have someone who cares about me and has a good solid viewpoint.  Take care.

• Thats good..  thankyou for listening and getting it. I won't be backwards in coming forwards in future. I shouldn't have bottled up so long. Thanks again xx