My sister and I have been caring for my Mom for the past 2 years. Recently all Chemo has been stopped as she is not strong enough for it now - she is 79 with what started out as ovarian cancer. We try and keep her as happy as we can but she is constantly mithering over things she can no longer do. She wants a car, even though she cannot go out alone any more, she wants decorating done, she wants more and more every day and I am starting to feel so resentful that she cannot just be happy with what she has and with all the care and love and support we give her to the detriment to our own lives. I work all week and then care for her all weekend so my sister gets a couple of days respite from it. I haven't had a weekend with my family for months. I love my Mom with all my heart so I feel like a horrible person now. It is emotionally and physically draining. Her presence always soothed and calmed me but now I just feel horrible. Horrible how I feel, horrible watching her decline, horrible watching the toll it is taking on my sister and our families. I know she is fighting against losing her independence but I can't make her see that we are not trying to take anything away from her - especially when it comes to having a car (her car was written off recently which is why we are without a car for her - not by her or any of us!), we are just trying to keep her safe. It is exhausting.
