Hi all.
My mum was diagnosed with pancreatic and liver cancer 11 days ago. She was in hospital being treated for a heart issue when the cancer was detected. She has a few months.
We are in process of arranging palative care package snd then she will be discharged. She is going to my sisters. We will care for her there together. This will involve my staying there also a number of nights a week.
I am 100% there for her. However I have 11 year old twin boys who I am concerned about, and I don't have the kind of job where I can work flexibly so will probably have to go off sick, but when I return literally all the work will have built up waiting for my return.
The prospect of the next few months is really getting me down to the point where I feel really very depressed and am having problems sleeping etc.
My husband has taken the kids away camping and after various meetings in hospital tomorrow I am going to join them for a few days until Mum is discharged. My mother is insistent that I go. I also know I need a bit of headspace , to mentally prepare for the next stage. I do however feel guilty for going .
I would really appreciate advice on how to juggle looking after mum whilst also being a present mum to my boys. I would also like hints on how to cope generally. My Father passed away very suddenly 3 years ago and I struggled with my mental health for over a year after. I can't go there again. Its not fair on my boys.
Thanks for taking the time to read.
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Hi
Sorry to hear about your mum and your dad and the impact it is having on you and your children. Issues with sleeping I can really relate to and it makes everything seem much worse very quickly.
I hope you are aware of your ability to get a needs assessment for your mum and a carers assessment for you so that you, your mum and your sister all get the care you need to make this next stage of your life as good as it can be.
<<hugs>>
Steve
