My husband was recently diagnosed with seminoma although there appears to be no cancer in his testicle, seems its in his pelvis. All happened very suddenly with an emergency op for blocked bowel caused by the mass. Had other complications with stoma not working and having to have a suorapubic catheter as he he couldn't pee and a recurring infection that delayed chemo. He was in hospital for almost 9 weeks. Now home and just finished 2nd round of chemo, albeit adjusted from the original plan.
I've read some people's posts about feeling guilty and, yes, that's me too! I've ended up being signed off work for 2 weeks with stress and yet it's hubby whose ill!!
My other concern is that although everyone tells me seminoma is the most curable of cancers I'm terrified it might not work as he's had nothing but complications and in the consultants words to his students "almost died twice". I'm keeping everything crossed and trying my best to keep positive for hubby's sake.
Thank you for reading. Everyone's story is individual and I'm sending huge love to everyone on this forum xx
Hi and welcome to our community, though sorry to hear about your husband and the effect it is having on you.
Personally I have a benign enlarged prostrate so very much relate to issues with peeing and infections. I have even had the delights of being taken to A&E in a ambulance in the small hours of the morning when the pain from an infection was driving me insane.
Still it is my wife who has the cancer, Leiomyosarcoma in her case. She has had two types of chemotherapy; the first of which while mostly successful did create a new range of issues with side effects. At the end however her cancer is now stable and we are very much living with cancer.
Treatment can be very frightening; almost always somewhere in the possible side effects there will be "you might die". Certainly it is there any time someone has an operation but it is really very very rate as everything is done to try to prevent that outcome. Of course in every day life crossing the road could be fatal but people generally do that without a second thought.
If only keeping positive was as easy to do as it is to write we would be able to cure the whole world. It might help to look through Your feelings when someone has cancer and remember the lesson I learnt the hard way - look after yourself because if we get broken then how will we help the people we love.
Glad your GP is supportive, stress is very real. My GP recently prescribed eco-therapy for me as an alternative to meds - given I take enough tablets myself to support a small pharmacy.
Keep talking, keep posting and together we all help each other.
<<hugs>>
Steve
