Been a sad time

My thoughts are with you and your family for your loss 

Thank you for your praise of carers, you certainly know what you are talking about if you played that role for 15 years.

It sounds to my uneducated ear that you need time to grieve, may I suggest you spend your time when you used to look after your wife thinking about what you would like to do, she would want you to be doing your stuff after you cautiously and carefully tended to her I expect. Maybe ask yourself the question what would she want you to do, and what do you feel you can do with that precious time.

Perhaps talk to your Daughter about your feelings, I know from experience when I lost my Dad that my mum didn't speak to me as much as she I feel she should have, so perhaps your daughter is just waiting for that conversation.

Big hugs.

L xxx

Thanks I am very lucky with my daughter she has been amazing. We have always talked to her about her mums health issues and not kept things hidden. We talk a lot about our feelings and she knows when I am sad and gives me a cuddle. She helped me plan her mums funeral and is keeping me grounded. I would like to go part time at work but financially that’s not possible. X