So hubby diagnosed with stage 3b lung cancer in 2018. Been through all treatments (to cut long story short) has come out the other end with no sign of tumours on scans. Back to work now on a phased return. Office job so we are both working from home. Seemed to be coping fine then had a complete breakdown on Friday. Totally threw me. He said he’d made some mistakes working, apparently only minor but now he has a knee problem which hosp think is not cancer related but are doing MIR just incase. Everything is coming at once plus always the build up to his 4 monthly scan is always worrying. I don’t know what to do or what to say to make things better. He’s just so teary which is so not like him. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
Hi Kamac
You are so right that scans time often bring on the jitters, on here often referred to as scanxiety and to that concerns about his knee - the problem being we are still liable to all the ills but it can be difficult not to think "cancer" every time. My wife's main speciality is a collapsed lung - still that was fixable - eventually.
Six years down the line of living with cancer I find my emotions are much more easily triggered but it is more normally good news stories that bring tears to my eyes. I have come to relate to my tears as love overflowing.
I can relate to the issues at work though, I have found some people who I would expected to have helped me have instead decided it was somehow related to my wife having cancer and ignored any concerns I have raised despite providing direct evidence to the contrary - ah well we can only do our best.
<<hugs>>
Steve
