Dad terminal final weeks

Hi ,

so sorry to read this and wish I could answer your question though I am sure you probably realise there is no answer.

I can relate to your feelings around guilt though from the time as my dad had a very long illness though it was not cancer.

Those moments when we can laugh together are so precious and thank you for sharing those with us.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thanks I know I’ll Cheris them eventually, but it’s just sat he watching him slowly fade away. My heart is breaking..

I'm the same with my mum, we were told 3 months but that was only 3 weeks ago but now we are back in hospital and she needs help to get washed, go to the toilet, can barely get out off bed. Has lost so much weight in 2 wks and if I can get her to eat its less that a bird will eat. She is so weak, I'm trying to get her home as quick as possible as they are saying if I don't her home before a certain time I could lose the chance to get her home where she wants. Im also struggling with what help I need in the house with mum. I am pregnant and I'm due in 3 weeks time. They have said I need to be in contact with a social worker before they know what I'll need for my mum. There is too many options I'm soo confused. She gets district nurses out twice a day to change her driver. I also have a hospice nurse to call to manage symptoms but that would every 2 wks and she is changing so quick it's scary so I know how you feel, it's the unknown for me. 

Hi 

Macmillan and the district nurses sorted all that for us with in two dads. They came in assesses dad, applied for care package so we where entitled to carers x3 visits per day and 3x night stays per week. Then district nurses went from weekly to one a day and hospice at home once a day.  It’s was the district nurses that applied for all this and got his hospital bed downstairs, as he too wanted be at home and so far we have managed it.  

soeak to Macmillan and district nurse and say you need all the above.

you can private message me too as hard work and taxing x

Hi Sam, thanks for replying. Things have changed overnight I didn't manage to get my mum home, I'm in the hospital staying with her, the doctors have told me she won't make it through the night. 

Hi patch 1

I am so sorry to hear this, your in my thoughts x

my dad pass away yesterday 8.10am, after caring for him for weeks and even though I was here with him. I’m absolutely devastated, I really thought there would be some sort of relief, but there isn’t! I’m just empty. The impending organisation of everything and even going back to my own home today is filling me with dread. I told him on Sunday to let go as he was unconscious for 2 days, I now feel guilty as as though I’ve wished him away.

thanks to those that took the time to respond to previous threads