My partner has just been newly diagnosed with tongue and throat cancer

Hi @yummymummy38 and welcome to the community. So sorry to hear about your partner and kind of amazed having 6 children with covid and everything must be extraordinary challenging.

My wife's cancer is rather different and she has "only" had chemotherapy so cannot say there is much in the way of experience I can share with you on that front. What however I found was that coping with my wife in hospital and my son ended up pushing me close to the edge - it can be much easier to say I must be strong than to actually deliver.

What helped me most was doing a living with less stress course with Maggies - a key element was to focus on what we have rather than the future we cannot control and often can imagine much worse than it turns out it real life. The conscious breathing exercises were really good too when something came out of the blue. Transcendental mediation though turned out not to be my cup of tea.

Well done for coming here; if might help you to look at Looking after someone with cancer as perhaps one of the people we most need to care for is ourselves. We are really lucky in that our GP knows the important role I play so is very supportive of me too.

We were really lucky as well that we had two friends who were just "there" when we needed - times like this we can appreciate the saying a friend in need.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thank you Steve for your reply,

I hope your wife makes a full recover, it’s tough going with kids and looking after my partner and it’s only the start off it, I think I’d give the support line a go and speak to someone or maybe my own gp, my partner doesn’t want anyone outside family  and we tend to keep ourselves to our self selves if that makes sense.  I’m trying to keep myself busy with work and kids and gym, I’ve a gym at home but I feel I need that support if that makes sense as I just feel lost and hurt at the moment and I’m trying to be strong for everyone.