Dad went in for his treatment plan meeting today to be told he only had 3/4 weeks to live. We were only told he had cancer a month ago. We are broken. I’ve a teenager who is in tears all the time and one who is feeling guilty because he hasn’t cried. We are hoping to have one last Christmas together as a family. He has been such a large figure in our family doing child care and holidays for the past 17 years. We were awaiting planning to build an annex for mum and dad to move in. Trying hard not to grieve him in the few weeks left.
Hi , so sorry to read this and it is really hard to know what to say. One thing though is that grief affects different people very differently and so crying or not crying should hopefully not be seen as a big issue.
It is perhaps worth focusing on the living rather than the death as whatever timescale is a guess based on averages though sometimes it can encourage the pre-grief that can take away the opportunity to enjoy what time we have left. Sometimes it can help to share those wonderful memories and celebrate all the times you have had together rather than focus on the time ahead - after all look what he helped shape - you and his grandchildren.
<<hugs>>
Steve
I've no words LeaM :,(
Big hugs
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