Christmas household with a vulnerable person

We are on chemo over the xmas period also shielding, so xmas day its just me and hubby and our youngest the other two children agree the risk is too high for them to attend, we are tier 3 so we will face time 1st thing in the morning again at 2pm for dinner and we are thinking of getting one of those portal things so we can join up for family games. Plus added benefit less people actually here less work and if hubby feels sick or tired he can relax back in his room without a crowd making a fuss. 

Maybe if your wife wants a big family do then ask the ones she wants to attend to shield for 2 weeks before Christmas. Whatever you do I hope you have a lovely day.

Thank you. Our situation has now changed, chemo has been stopped (2nd Dec) after consultant decided that the neuropathy my wife has developed could be permanent if more treatments were given.  Her bloods were ok for treatment to be given which is a good position to start from &, without the chemo this week, white blood cell shound be good in 3 weeks time for Christmas.

We are in tier 2, son will come 1 week before Christmas to borrow mum’s car (she hasn’t driven it since before surgery on June 8).  He’ll drive back to London, work at home for the week and then be able to drive here on Christmas Eve, avoiding public transport.  We will still be distancing and cleaning a lot more than usual!  If after 3 nights he goes to girlfriends he will be out of the bubble

Aside from nausea, wife has had every other side effect going. Now, the nerve pain in her hands and feet has increased, fingers and toes are sensitive, painful to use. Has given up using adult size cutlery.  Nails have also been dying and are now brown about half-way down, possibly working towards lifting off all together.  

There were 4 doses of paclitaxel to go. Consultant appt this week to go through details about radiotherapy which is part of planned treatmen.  Her body has been so sensitive to chemo, she’s been in hospital with Neutropenic Sepsis twice because of it. Broast tumour was oestrogen dependent, Letrazole for years ahead coming up.

Hope treatment for your husband goes well and you have the best and safest Christmas you can.

Hi, my husband is also currently on Folfiri and cetuximab, stage 4, had Apr surgery, permanent stoma,  now mets on liver and lungs and so far treatment isn’t working on liver. Daughter and granddaughter live with us in Devon, her ex lives in the North West.

Daughter asked ex is she could put a hold on alternate weekend visits and the 3 days at Christmas as she was so worried about her daughter bringing Covid back into our family home. He knows how sick and vulnerable my husband, her dad is, but he obviously doesn’t care, he said my husband should move out of the family home as he’s told her he’s taking her to court. 

I’m not sure how much more we can cope with, I can’t believe people can be so insensitive, we’re worried how long he’s got left, he was given months in August if treatment didn’t work, everyone on here knows how worried we are, we don’t need more to keep us awake at night. Maybe we need a solicitor.

Sorry, rants of a stressed old woman, no one can help, only an understanding judge. 

Budge