Harsh I know, but it's been another bad day. Since he was diagnosed with terminal cancer, his personality has completely changed. It's as if he's got through the shock, the anger, the 'why me' part and is on to. 'Well, as I'm going to die, I might as well behave as badly as possible - what are they going to do about it?'
If anyone disgarees with his opinion on anything, or any decision he makes whic affects the rest of us, we are all stupid, making inance remarks, or simply don't understand the issue. About anything, from what we eat, where we go on holiday, to what the politicians say on the TV. This is wearing the family down, especially me as I bear the brunt of it and have been making excuses for him - until now, that is. I know I don't have cancer, but I was in hospital for two weeks in April with Covid and on a ventilator for four days, but that's not cancer is it, so it's all forgotten now and not to be referred to as he's not interested. Fortunately I have recovered well, but it wasn't a nice experience and I did have flashbacks for a while afterwards. I've been told he was a mess when I was on the ventilator, but you wouldn't know it now.
I could go on, but I won't bore you. I just needed to get it out.
I guess I should do the same.
Emotions overtake everything sometimes.
Along with sheer tiredness,
we are only doing the best we can when we can. 
HI Juppy....oh I just want to give you a huge hug. You're definitely not the only one struggling with this. There's plenty of times I've run out of patience recently as my better half's communication skills fail. I've hidden in the loo or in the bedroom just to get a few minutes to pull myself together. It's not easy but we're all here for you if you need to vent.
I haven't tried therapy but I did reach out to the local hospice who put me in touch with the family support worker. She's been lovely. She listens without judgement. She gets it. Maybe that's something you could explore.
Friends and family are great but unless they have experienced this journey there's a limit to their understanding and to the support they can give. I've learned that lesson. But they're still your friends and family so don 't totally shy away from them.
In the meantime, hang in there.
big hugs
Wee me xx
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