Comfortable armchair?

Hello Lookingoutward, your post reminds me of my husband over a year ago. He is incurable but miraculously currently stable - its been quite a journey. Inbetween the finishing of his chemo and the start of immunotherapy early last year my husband used to sit like that on the sofa due to his pain, he said it helped him and he was more comfortable that way, however to me it looked very uncomfortable. I feel for you. Have you tried v pillows behind him and stroking his hand or arm as a distraction from pain technique just to encourage him to get comfortable in a more upright position. Perhaps a hot water bottle behind him, heat bags etc, we even tried deep heat. I know it sounds abit ridiculous because he was on such high doses of pain medication at the time but it was a desperate time. How does he get comfortable in bed? Is it possible to transfer how he lies in bed to how he sits on the sofa? A recliner with a high back could possibly be a solution dependant on how he lies in bed. Hopefully other suggestions will follow. I do hope you find a solution that works for your husband soon.

Sunflowers15, thank you for your thoughtful reply. You have helped me to consider how my husband lies in bed, in relation to whether the recliner with high back would work (possibly not at this sage; he always lies on his sides now - he finds it too uncomfortable to lie on his back). I hadn't thought of trying deep heat. I have just told him about your post and we have now tried some deep heat. As you say, anything that might help would be good! It was helpful reading that your husband chose a sitting position that was more comfortable to him, but that looked very uncomfortable to you. It makes me think that I need to learn to trust a little bit that my husband has found the best position to sit in. It's really hard though. Thank you. Here's to continuing stability for your husband.

I am as it happens an orthopaedic and respiratory nurse! Has he tried a recliner as it may take the pressure off the small of his back with a v shaped pillow or arrange pillows I that way! Also heat packs may help! Leaning forward may help him clear his lungs but maybe put a table at the right height in front with pillows on it to lean on and alternate positions. If he lies on his side, pop a pillow behind his back, a couple for his head so he is not too flat and one between his legs, may also relieve pressure

There are some really helpful suggestions in your email. Thank you so much. I hadn't thought of a table in front of him with pillows that he can rest on. We will try that.  I just red your email to him and your description of pillows to support his back and between his knees is exactly how he lies in bed, nice to know he is doing the best thing. Now to just find out how to take the pressure off his ear, which gets squashed during the night!

Thank you for your helpful suggestions

Just  a thought, if you were thinking about a recliner are there any shops you can get to where you can try before you buy x

That's an excellent suggestion Needing friends. Thank you so much!