On Friday I phoned our Gp to say partners deterioration was escalating, he had problems getting upstairs and despite a course of steroids he is now only taking a couple of mouthfulls of food a day and refusing all his supplements. A district nurse came out and took bloods and a urine sample. He has commenced antibiotics as a dip test indicated a urine infection. The lovely GP phoned at 4pm to say his bloods were OK, not requiring any action, not even showing signs of dehydration! I couldn't believe he isn't dehydrated as the onlu fluids he takes are a few mouthfulls with his medication. She was kind enough to spend time telling me that my partner will not improve, his resistance to food is something seem quite often in cancer patients who have advanced cancer and this is how he is presenting. Tube feeding would not be helpful or appropriate and to phone whenever I feel something new has occurred or when I need help she will make sure the palliative care team become more involved. Hopefully the scan on Monday and appointment on the 19th will provide answers. I feel bad to admit that I feel so relieved that I now know there is nothing more that can be done and that they are aware of how ill he is. I have been constantly wondering what else I could do to help, it's exhausting trying to get him to eat. I know that others have told me you cannot make someone eat, but the reality of watching them starve is so difficult. I don't want to loose him but I thank the doctor so much for being able to put into words and confirm what I am seeing
