How do I manage my husbands really bad moods, I feel lonely, stressed, don't now what to do, he's has prostate cancer,mane and gist both being managed very well, it's just the drugs he's on has changed him so much, please help.
Hi tobs, I think that I almost disassociated myself from my partner and our problems as an act of survival. I know that I haven't been through half as much as many people on these forums have regarding mood swings and personality changes. Talking to other people, writing on this forum, getting out by yourself or doing nice things alone are all things that can help I know others have spoken to their GPS or Mcmillan nurses to discuss this. Do you think medication could be to blame? Not everyone accepts counselling, would your husband?. I really feel for you and hope other people on here have some suggestions x
Hi tobs, i know how you feel! My wife has lung cancer which spread to the brain. Its been 4 years now, thankfully targeted drug treatment is working after a set back after year 2 which causes a slight lose of use to one side of her body. Since then she has been a different person. I know what stress she is under knowing treatment can stop working at any time but our relationship has taken a turn with arguments and a short temper towards me and everyone else.
I am an easy going person but it gets too much some times and it blows up, the air is cleared 5 mins later with apologies but it starts to build up again. All i can say is, if you can, take time for yourself. Visit friends, start a hobby or just go for a walk. If your husband has friends that can call to chat or take him out and change the scenery it may stop things building up.
I try my best but sometimes it seems like no matter what i do its not enough! I know that my wife loves me and all that i do so in my low moments i hold onto that.
I don't know if any of that helps but i know its not easy. I guess the message is, you have to look after yourself to be able to look after your husband and cope with what is thrown at you.
Now my husband is a complete arse, I think it's his Meds, but he's lovely with everyone else but what am I, his wife but I don't feel like one, he picks on me over silly things, lost now.
Hi Chrissy, i don't know if its the drugs or combination of things but what i find with my wife is that she keeps all her frustrations of the day for me. When talking to other people she does not say anything about how she feels, just that everything is ok.
I know i am the closest person to her and am going through everything with her so i think she only wants to talk to me and unfortunately that can be mostly the negative/frustrations of our situation that can make it seem like they are aimed at me.
Us men are not know for showing our emotions or feels and your husband could be just building things up in side which may be causing his sharp comments/responses to you.
Can you speak to the nurse specialist to see if these are side effects to the drugs he is on?
Hope things ease off for you and he shows how much he appreciates all the things you do, as I'm sure he does but is too angry at the cancer to say.
