Living alone with cancer

Hi Den64

it made me sad to read your message to even think that you’re moaning - what you are going through is a very traumatic and terrifying experience so you’re allowed to ‘moan’ (I don’t class it as moaning btw)!!!

I see you have 2 cats who I hope are being beautiful feline friends to you. As other people have suggested there  are many charity phone lines you can call but I get that is sometimes a hard thing to motivate yourself to do. I find breathing exercises (or meditation but I get that’s not everyone’s thing)  really helpful when I hit those overthinking lonely times - google box breathing or breathing exercises for anxiety and who would have thought that breathing can actually help your mind …….that old saying of ‘take a deep breath’ is actually helpful!

I too get very lonely and my friends all live a tube journey away so I try to set a routine for the day as I find that helps somewhat with loneliness. 

Not that it’s worth much but sending you a virtual hug and it’s alright to feel the emotions you do ……..I‘ m guessing most of us on this chat forum are here because we are struggling 

Hello

I went through everything alone and find out having something to do helps. I exercise  everyday and taking coding classes for AI. It will be a year next month of chemo, radiation and surgrey and the time has actually passed pretty fast. I stopped listening to other people as they just got me down.

Yep !!

Hello Gill (Gill23) 

Thank you for your reply - sorry about the delay in getting back to you, family members arrived without any prior notification!

Urachal cancer is a new one on me, however using the "search" I have found it mentioned in these messages:

Search - Urachal Cancer.

I think the best group for you would be the bladder group (I may be wrong) however here's the link you need:

Bladder cancer forum 

Just click on the link I have provided and when the page opens up, click on "join" on the black banner at the bottom of the page. Once you have joined the group you can introduce yourself in the "New Here - Say Hello" section.

I hope the above helps.

Best wishes - Brian.

I know how this feels as I am in a simular position its like being trapped.x

Being alone with your own thoughts is difficult, at the start of my journey I had a partner who I thought was going to be with me every step of the way, she decided she was leaving me which was devastating and dealing with both is hard, and now I’m post surgery I’ve got outside help but I’m sure you will relate nothing beats having that support at home 

Being alone with your thoughts is the worse. Sorry that your partner left, I know its hard on friends and family. Hope the outside help was good and totally get that support at home would be the best. Thats why I have found this forum is good for advice and support. Hope you are healing well and on the road to recover. 

Until it possibly happens to her !!

      Then will she know !

     Break ups are hard  on their own without illness aswell .

       I know a woman (not me ) that was married and on the day he brought them home from the maternity ward ...he said I am just popping out ....half an hour later he rang her and said  "its over kid ! I am leaving you goodbye!"

        She  was extremely mentally disturbed from thereon for quite some time .

       We all rallied round but like you say ....!!

        But if someone resents helping or supporting....(which i find hard to fathom but I know it happens )  I think the disbelief  and rejection is maybe the difficult part to cope with .

      Thinking of you ! X

Thanks for message day by day I know it’s a cliche but it helps and looking at the positives because it’s to easy to find the negatives 

Thanks for your message support is really appreciated