Awake and up all night

Welcome to this section of the Macmillan website which is a good first port of call, often with someone who will respond at almost any time of the day or night. 

Your mother is just entering the whirlwind early weeks and months which are often the most difficult because it is full of tests and waiting for results whilst minds are set racing in the partial vacuum until the path becomes clearer. You sound as though you are gradually taking this on board despite your responsibilities - finding this site is an excellent start. We, as fellow cancer patients and carers, will do our best to offer moral support. We have many good listeners here. The mods may be able to offer further forum options by linking other forums on here which are for more specific cancer types. This one, to which all are welcome is more general. For example, I am on the Bladder Cancer forum as well. There is a contact number visible by scrolling down which gives access to real Macmillan specialists who can often give reassurance and guidance to point you in the right direction, very useful when you are not quite sure which way to turn, particularly when everything is descending upon you. Very best wishes to you and your mum.  Ray (76), diagnosed in 2017.

Hi misslorena123 and welcome to the chat.

I’m glad you’ve found us, and you’ll find a lovely community here of people happy to help you in any way we can. 

I‘m so sorry to read about your mum-what a shock that must have been for you all-you’ll just be reeling with it all being so recent. You’ve got an awful lot on your plate with your mum and sister, and still needing to look after yourself and how you’re feeling. 

I don’t want to overwhelm you with information on your first visit to us, but I am one of the Community Champions(a volunteer with Macmillan) and can help you find various groups within the community and resources to help you to try and cope as you navigate all of this. In the meantime, there is a whole bunch of people here to chat to which I hope will help you feel less alone in this scary situation. 

We are all patients ourselves, or caring for a loved one, and have built lots of friendships here with people who understand. You are so welcome to be with us-we talk about all sorts, share pictures, and we all care very much about each other and everyone’s lives. Whatever you would like to join in with is fine, any time of the day or night. There’s usually someone around to chat, and we all understand that things can be hard in the night especially when fears and worries can overwhelm us. 

I’ll stop rambling now and end by sending you a big hug. Keep talking to us, and you’ll soon get to know us and feel you’re among friends.

Sarah xx

It can be very hard to try again after a loss, Soc. You just feel you can’t go through that again. 

We have had rescues and ferals all the years we’ve been together and we say “never again” when we lose one, but then we see another little furry face and our hearts melt. I’ll need to try and get a picture with Nyx from the front so you can see her properly!

Sarah xx

Evening sweetheart, and a warm welcome from me, too.

I echo what all the lovely folk here have already said, and please drop in whenever you like, regardless of the time of day.

Sending you love and hugs xxx

Hope ok to comment, love to see pic x

We lost our rescue, and l find other folks cat stories cheer me up so much. My cat used to know if l was nervous or not well and sit with me and l knew if he was the same, we both were uncomfortable when we had to have work done in the house with drilling etc and we'd be cuddling up on the sofa, with our cat giving me a look as if to say, 'have you  no control what so ever to allow all this disruption you have 2 things to do run the house to my liking and pamper me to my liking ' lol

That's cats all over Dingg, and why we love them so much  xxx

Lol, but glad you recovered so much Sarah. I agree l try to do that.

Hubby says its not what happens to you its how you deal with it. He's got a point there.

He's had some sleep now in the new ward and our friend sent him a healing card with healing words which I'd not seen one like that before. I left him discussing Weetabix with the man in the next bed so hope we all have a better sleep tonight.

Thinking of everyone on here tonight hope its as good as it can be for everyone xxx

Thank you so much ️

Thank you very much, ️

Hi miss lorentz

Another welcome from me, I'm one of the better sleepers here but still like to come and chat. 

I hope your Mum's treatment goes well and as others have said, remember to take some time for yourself. 

H