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“Getting a cancer diagnosis is extremely stressful, and that brings a whole load of emotions, and lack of sleep certainly does not help. I think many of us have periods of insomnia. I experienced a long period of not sleeping. I could go off to sleep quite quickly, but after an hour I would find myself wide awake again, and would spend the rest of the night getting frustrated because I couldn't sleep."
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Fuuuuuu! I fell asleep before chatting last night
How are you?
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Ah ah, Shims - it was Uki who used the word just, not me hon.
Tell you what grips me, when folk tell me to look after myself as I'll be no use to OH if I don't!
Er, hang on bud, do I only exist to be an unpaid nurse, PA, housekeeper drone drone drone...
No, I don't!
As you were xxx
Sorry Shimmer, just realised it WAS to Uki. Apologies hon, I've been narked since MiL xxx
Ooh I had to double check and yep ... that post was to Uki ... but applies to all.
Err I am not silly or brave enough to tell you how to be a carer or tell you how you feel about it
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Phone playing up again, I'll have to do some callyfudging.
Tell me about your day whilst I sort it xxx
I know folk, that's us too, don't think about a lot of things until they hove into our sphere of existence or in some cases, bash us on the bonce, but some comments are very ... linear.
By that I mean the inference of what is actually said isn't considered. So in your case, on the surface it is a kind, well meant bit of advice ... but ... like you say, that's you now then, firstly, all and everything? No one else jumping in? But also... you needed telling this?
Maybe, possibly, when you were first dumped into the Maelstrom and still working out which way was up. Not when you've been Captain, navigator, cook and ship's cat for some time... and are the advice givers offering their services or time to enable you to look after yourself?
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Ooh I am pontificating, you can tell I had some sleep last night, unlike the night before when it was 6 am when I actually napped!
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Nope. The main advice givers, OH's team, neighbours, shop workers, etc just say the words off pat, like it's expected of them, and then toddle off into the distance leaving me wanting to cause them some serious damage. His mother's the worst of the lot!
I know what I'm capable of and don't need any telling. I'll decide and they can butt out.
Ooh, I am moody atm so I'll snap out of it - pronto!
Look
So Wednesday was Greek food then Party in Box pal joined us for pool to celebrate his birthday.
Thursday we discovered a strange withdrawal in Scooterless's banking app of £252.46 . No indication what for, he swore nowt to do with him. This happened first day home after surgery.
I spent forever on phone to bank which said it was withdraw in branch, Scooterless adamant not him so advised him go to branch look at CCTV.
Too late yesterday. Then we had session of Stressy in full flight giving us and the dog all kinds of grief but we got over that.
I despair at him getting frustrated with pal and memory only going to deteriorate.
This morning the pair set off to the bank ... will post this chapter
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