Awake and up all night

I'll look back at the posts.️

 Almanzo, you silly billy!

If you mean Maggie's guy, he was from South Africa - I asked if he was Aussie or Kiwi first, but OH got it right with SA. Good lad.

We've got a dentist appointment in 3 weeks, so I've already primed OH for another visit to Maggie's as it's a smashing place - highly recommended for those who need a peaceful bolthole and sympathetic ears xxx

Sorry to hear this Rosie. He's obviously suffering some kind of trauma as a result of the process.I'm not an expert on the prostate even though I have one. I had BPH(benign prostate hyperplasia) at one point and it does affect you.He could do with someone to talk to. Don't beat yourself up. This is the time to care for yourself as well. Being a carer can get very lonely sometimes when you've lost some of the life you had. Have you got any family who could talk to him? Loads of love Rosie. You are not ugly and you are worth loving. Big hugs.

Did I not tell you, my middle name is Almondo.

 I can well imagine Uki, or should we start calling you Al, for short? You are daft, our kid xxx

Hello Ukiboy 

So I am 4.5 years into my personal prostate cancer journey. it's a couple's cancer and sadly the NHS fails to tell the man of the side effects more often not until it's too late. 90% of us have either surgery to remove the prostate or hormone therapy - both devastating to your sex life.

Warning - explicit information coming up!!

* For surgery they remove the prostate but half the time they take nerve bundles which either control your urine function or your ability to have an erection. If after surgery you can still function your orgasms will be dry.

* Hormone Therapy - prostate cancer lives on testosterone. Hormone Therapy removes your testosterone - you lose the ability to have an erection, your "equipment" shrinks, you have hot flushes, fatigue, brain fog  - oh and I have grown a nice paid of 38DD moobs!!

On the prostate group we talk about this a lot - and sometimes in much more detail.

At this point I would say to any man reading this over 50 - get tested - it's a blood test not a digital rectal examination (the finger up the bum). I was 66 before my diagnosis and had no symptoms - click on my name or avatar for the full story (make a brew before you read it - it's becoming an epic!!).

Anyway I hope you had a great weekend and are looking forward to some nice weather.

Kind regards - Brian.

Thanks Brian. I've had the tests and the ginger up the bum and scans and I am on medication to stop the prostate growing. Can I just say what a wonderful advocate you are for this cancer.nYour honestly and candid description are not only mega supportive but also life saving You're a top geezer Brian 

I've not had ginger up my bum.

Excellent post, Brian!

I'd already looked at your bio and I have to say I always appreciate candour - after all, following cancer treatment and surgery there's nowt else to get embarrassed about.

OH had a prostate scare when he landed up in hospital last year - BUT it took almost 5 weeks, 3 hospital letters and a host of pestering phone calls from me before he got a PSA blood test. The ads are on telly all the time, urging men over 50 to get one done, but it's not a good indictment for catching it early when you have to badger the hell  out of your GP.

Have a good one Brian, and pats for Ryder xxx

Ukiboy said:

I've not had ginger up my bum.

It's no doubt a treatment for something!  I would have thought at least being ginger it would cause irritation!! .

Should you need to amend a post after it's been posted just click on the "More" button at the bottom of the page - you can then edit your mistakes and then put the post back.

Kind regards - Brian.