Let's talk about dating and cancer

I have not dated since my cancer as a single lady of 35 years old i don't feel confident to date as I feel no one will want to be with someone who has 1 nipple and a strange shape breast that looks nothing like the other one 

Hi Lucy373 

Thank you for being honest about how you feel. Worrying about new relationships after treatment is natural as you have been through so much emotionally and physically. 

I hope reading some of the experiences in the 'Lived experiences of dating with cancer' blog can provide some reassurance. From looking at your profile I can see that you have also joined the Breast cancer forum but not yet posted. 

There is a lovely supportive community in the Breast cancer forum so if you were to start a discussion to introduce yourself and share what has brought you to join, it won't be long before others come by to offer some support. 

There’s some useful step by step guidance in our Help Pages to help you join and post in our forums.

If you need a listening ear and someone to talk to, our friendly Cancer Support Advisors on the Macmillan Support Line  are there to support you every day from 8am to 8pm. 

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I was diagnosed with cancer three years ago and haven't even thought about dating.

I am a 55 year old woman who was diagnosed last July,

I am now having preventative chemo after surgery and on ‘the other side’  and trying to get back to ‘living life’. Well, curiosity of what I would encounter on a dating site got the better of me as I used dating apps prior to diagnosis. 
I posted photos of me with no hair, the ‘old/real me last year pre diagnosis, me in my pink wig which I absolutely love, just so that I wasn’t misleading anyone in my photos , without actually saying cancer in my profile wording! 
Long story short chatted with someone,exchanged numbers he called. Asked about what’s with the pink hair. Explained and he made excuses to end the telephone call and then blocked me!!! 
I was quite a strong person before cancer, and I am determined to still be the same now. But that’s me. He could have done that to a different person and absolutely destroyed their confidence at the very least!!! 
I’m more angry about that!! 

Hi Chloe, I hope i'm ok asking, do you think your treatment/medication is a factor behind your decision, I ask as my eldest daughter who has just been through cancer treatment, has completely lost interest in someone she told me before her diagnosis, she thought they could move their friendship on, she had been single for 11 years, and I know the guy was heartbroken, and wanted to move things forward too, PS I m going through cancer treatment too and know how it can change you in all sorts of ways.

Eddie