Treatment ok (so far) but somehow I'm pessimistic

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Have had recent treatment for a high grade prostate tumor and a pancreatic tumor, it's early days but the consultants say the outlook is good. Nevertheless, I feel "afflicted" and although there are so many people that seem to take cancer in their stride, even get energised to fight it, I don't feel that way. At 60 I feel it's a bit early (although of course there are so many that experience this much earlier) and also that it will likely shorten my life. None of my friends have had to deal with this personally, and all seem detached or upbeat on my condition. I feel like there's a onus to be positive, but I don't want to be. Which isn't really like me, normally I am supremely optimistic.

winkers60 13 days ago in reply to Phil 55

Hi Phil 55,How are you now? I feel very fortunate that I got the surgery just in time.The surgical team did all the hard work.I had a type of bladder cancer that doesn’t respond well to radiotherapy or chemo.Best wishes.Love Jane x

Pineapple60 13 days ago in reply to Millibob

Thanks Brian, I will check your journey. I vaguely remember seeing it last year as the side effects sound familiar. Glad to hear that you are coming off the HT. Well done.

DanB123 10 days ago

I understand how you feel. No one around me has really dealt with cancer. Everyone tells me to be positive and take it one day at a time. I feel so left out as well. I'm not taking chemo well and my diagnosis isn't great. I'm only 38. I'm not taking things well mentally or emotionally and it's affected me like nothing ever has. Instead of some advice you don't want to hear, I'll just say you aren't alone.

Millibob 10 days ago in reply to DanB123

Hello Dan (DanB123)

I am so sorry to read your post - we are one big family here so I will try and help you if you don't mind me doing so.

First off the Community is divided into 60 or so cancer Forums or Groups where you can chat and exchange information with people with a similar cancer to you - and they understand where you are with it - if you let me know what type of cancer you have I can direct you to the right group. - I have Prostate Cancer and you can read my journey by clicking on my avatar. The guys (and girls) on that group have helped me more than they know!!

Here at Macmillan we can offer you some free counselling if you think this would help - no obligation but here's the link:

Free BUPA Counselling.

We can also offer you a "Buddy" - someone who will call you once a week and see how you are doing - you can chat about the weather, the price of food - even cancer - whatever is on your mind - again - here's the link:

Macmillan Buddies

Do you have a "Maggie's" near you - this is a cancer drop in charity - you just call in, have a brew and a chat - no questions asked - again, here's a link:

Maggie's

There's also our Support Line on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week) They are there for you and are happy to chat and offer you help and support.

Please do come back to me and I will get you a link to your specific cancer group. If I can do anything else for you please do let me know.

Best wishes - Brian

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Pineapple60 8 days ago in reply to DanB123

Hi Dan, that must be incredibly hard, and 38 is so very young. You're doing what you have to do, and I can imagine the emotional/mental side is very tough. Thanks for taking the time to post here.