Just turned 40 with triple negative inflammatory breast cancer

Hi im tripple negative and commenced chemotherapy and immunotherapy 3 weeks ago

I am still working from home and taking each day as it comes so i would say you do that too  

I am not a single mum nor am I under 50 but I do have TNBC. Metastatic in my case, and I have experienced everything that can be thrown at TNBC. I just wanted to reassure you that treatment isn’t necessarily the horror show you are perhaps fearing. No two people react the same but it’s unlikely you will experience all the symptoms listed in the literature, nor will you experience them all the time. Stay hydrated and keep a symptom diary so you know what to expect as you move through it. Wishing you all the best. 

How have you been? I found out today and not told my kids yet as they are old enough to google be heartbroken scared. It all reads so scary like I got the worst thing and the word aggressive has been used 3 times today I feel sick and terrified. I am scared to read scary stories x 

How are you now, I just found out today and I’m terrified x 

Hi Sunflower11 

I am sorry to hear you are also going through this. Try to stay away from the scary stories if you can. The treatment landscape has changed so much in recent years and a lot of information out there pre-dates it. I am getting close to 5 years survival with metastatic TNBC but the data out there would have had my odds of that at less than ten percent. Do you know what your treatment plan is yet?

I continue to be well, thank you for asking  

No apparently they wouldn’t normally say as much that appointment but radiologist just bluntly told me you have IBC, 2 lumps mssses, it’s aggressive said 3 times, don’t tell your boys what type it is, said you will need to move fast - it was horrendous I was laying on table. She also said while wait 10 days for them to have there big meeting to decide plan to speed up I should have CT pet scan.
then saw consultant who I told she said all this he didn’t look impressed, so has referred for ct scan, but said wouldn’t normally tell me this yet. He said I will get first available appointment after there meeting with the plan. 

so glad your doing well, does anyone know if I approach doctors can they give me anxiety meds or anything? 

Just replied to your other note - I think you could make an appointment with your GP to discuss your anxiety.