Hi lovely ladies!
I'm Sophie, turned 40 last month, and found a lump in my breast 2 days after.
I'm a single mum of 2 gorgeous boys (9 & 5), have just got my life into a happy place after 4 years of divorce with a man I love (now fiance), a wonderful family balance and a job I love (at my kids primary school).
My lump has now taken over my whole breast and I start aggressive weekly chemo next week. All of this has been too quick for me to process (but, in the same breath, HUGE love to our NHS for the speed they have acted). Because of the risk of infection at my workplace, this means I will have to step back during my year of chemo. Alongside this, I will likely be thrown into full menopause.
I have so many worries, and I know I can't control them, however my biggest fear is: who am I going to become once I get into chemo? My boys are everything to me. We've formed such a close bond since the divorce and they are my life. I'm petrified. I've tried to be honest with them, but the unknown is too much for me. Once minute I'm totally fine, and my usual, bubbly self - and the next minute the reality and the looming date of potential change hits me.
How do people cope with this? Are there any other single mums out there with this? Xxx
I am not a single mum nor am I under 50 but I do have TNBC. Metastatic in my case, and I have experienced everything that can be thrown at TNBC. I just wanted to reassure you that treatment isn’t necessarily the horror show you are perhaps fearing. No two people react the same but it’s unlikely you will experience all the symptoms listed in the literature, nor will you experience them all the time. Stay hydrated and keep a symptom diary so you know what to expect as you move through it. Wishing you all the best.
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